Deep Spirits

Mr. Premji also talks about doing what is most appropriate .That should again call for being judgmental.

How do I know whats appropriate and whats not?
Why is there a right and a wrong?
Or is it my right and your right?
Is there a 'the right' ?

Befuddles me :)

Naveen,

There is nothing wrong with judging...
We judge everything all the time whether we want to or not.
We judge a situation to see if it is safe, for instance.
Children do that too.
I remember my son when he was only a few years old.. prompted to go ahead and climb a construction in the park, he looked at it, observed it for a few seconds, and then said "No, I don't want to".
He judged it not to be safe for him. He evaluated the situation.

The words judging and judgment are very often misused, especially among "spiritual" people or people who embark on a spiritual journey.
We shouldn't judge others....

What that means is, we shouldn't judge them too harshly or rashly. We should try to understand. We should listen, and so on.

The point is to be find the golden middle.
So do judge, because judging is a necessity for survival. But, judge wisely.

Being judgmental seems to be my natural behavior.Cant seem to help being judgmental.For starters,I have decided to be consciously aware that I am judgmental.Why do I want to control if its my natural tendency?Can it be controlled?

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My mind writhes in pain to and fro.

You don't need to control it other than be conscious of it. You can work on it, but gently.
I say gently, because putting too much strain on something can break it, and you may end up pending back and forth between being very judgmental of others and very judgmental of your own judgments.

The question why you want to control it if it's your natural tendency is a good starting point.
So, what is the answer to that question?

It becomes a chicken and egg story when I answer that one ...

Life :)

I remember Mystic poet Kabir's couplet about a worn-out boat (nab jarjari) rowed by a frail old captain: “Travel light (without worries) if you want to float across,” the Master advises, “(halke halke tire). For those who loaded their heads sank (Bude tini sirh bhar).”

Naveen wrote:It becomes a chicken and egg story when I answer that one ...

Life :)

Ok... I understand, but then that may be your journey for now. To find the answer to only that one "why".
Where it all started, what contributed to it, how different things make you feel and why they make you feel as they do.
"Life", yes... but what about life?
Otherwise, the answer to any question could simply be "life". :)